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Matt Townsend discusses love languages

If you want to laugh while you learn about relationships, listen to Matt Townsend. 

This video discusses love languages. Every single day find some way to feed that love.

Matt Townsend the communication and relationship expert. 

 

10 Ways to Make Sure You're Marriage Is A Success

Tips from my marriage counselor, Dr. Liz Hale... 10 Ways to Make Sure You're Marriage Is A Success

 

 

     Dear Dr. Liz~

Well, the countdown is approaching fast! Two more weeks and my fiance’  and I will be “husband and wife.” Are there any concrete suggestions you can give us to hang on to so we can have a little more peace of mind going into this large abyss? There is so much information out there that we can’t digest it all. We feel we have made a great choice in each other…know we just want to know how to make it the best marriage possible! Lyndie

     Dear Lyndie~

I know what you mean about the difficulty in sorting through the mass amount of marital information and advice. There are more tips and research available to us today than ever before. It’s an exciting time for building a successful marriage because we can learn to do it right. Simple and concrete steps are neatly noted in the below top-10 list from Michele Weiner-Davis.  Keep it handy as you embark on this wonderful joint adventure!   Love,  Dr. Liz

1. Spend time together: The number one cause of marital breakdown is not making the relationship a top priority. Time-starved marriages are at risk of divorce because partners stop being friends.

2. Have sex: Why would we not? Sexual intimacy is one of the most important connections in marriage. Work hard to keep the passion alive. Desire is a decision. 

3. Touch: Show affection in and out of the bedroom. Hold Hands. Cuddle, Sit together on the couch, in church, and over coffee or hot chocolate.

4. Flirt: How did the two of you interact when you first started dating? Revisit the small flirtations that kept the fire stoked and see how hot the fires burn again. 

5. Talk frequently: Don't let a day go by without knowing the details of at least one important thing that happened to your partner that day. Don't shut down when you are hurt; keep the lines of communication open at all times regarding all issues.

6. Give compliments: who doesn't like to be appreciated? Make a concerted effort to give sincere compliments to your spouse EVERY SINGLE DAY! Appreciation leads to resiliency in marriage. 

7. Take a marriage class: Who taught us how to do this thing called "marriage" anyway? Learn the skill sets that lead to staying in love... it's not a feeling, it's a behavior. 

8. Handle conflicts constuctively: Avoiding conflict is not the answer. Conflict is inevitable; but it is not inevitably destructive. Arguments get out of hand when parties feel misunderstood and invalidated. Learn how to do it right!

9. Focus on the Positives: Whatever we focus on grows! Commit to seeing what's right with your partner. Dr. John Gottman, premier marital researcher, concluded that positives must outweigh negative 5:1, in order for a marriage to be successful. Divorcing couples have a ratio closer to 1:1.

10 Do real giving: Real giving is giving to your partner what he or she interprets wants and needs. Give without understanding why a particular thing is important to your spouse; just give it and get an appreciative, happy lover! 

 

Dr. Liz Hale 

 

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The Winner Of March Madness Tournament

Yes! Bride's March Madness is done. The winner of the tournament is you! You have planned the big day and honeymoon and you get to come home and enjoy your new life! The two categories we have left to investigate are the things you need after you are married. These will be fun to think about before your big day, and more fun to decide after you are home from the honeymoon and living your life together. 

Gifts and Home Furnishings is so fun! What are you going to choose for your home colors- kitchen, bath, bedroom? IKEA is here to help you with everything you could ever need or want. Check them out at the Draper store.

I Do Cookbook is a fabulous idea for a gift- I have one of them myself and it is now one of my top three cookbooks ever! It explains everything and I love that. The best part for me is it has a picture of each and every recipe! That way you know what it is supposed to look like, well... what it could look like. Tell your friends and family that this is one thing you want - it will be one of the best gifts you receive. 

 

 

 

_____ GIFTS & HOME FURNISHINGS

 

   IKEA 

  I Do Cookbook

 

The other category you have is life planning. This is what the whole BIG DANCE was about- you get to live with the person of your dreams. LIfe planning is exciting because you get to communicate with your husband what it is that is important to you. The fist thing you need is great communication. We have 2 fabulous companies for that -- Stronger Marriage and Matt Townsend. You also get to think about insurance. There is a lot in this category- wedding insurance, health, life, dental, car, home, etc. Valley Insurance is a great resource and can help you in all that you need.  Then banking- We have 2 great options for you -- Utah Central Credit Union and Zions Bank. Call each of them to ask how they can help you. 

Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave. - Martin Luther

 

_____  LIFE PLANNING

 

  Matt Townsend

  StrongerMarriage.org

 

  Valley Insurance

   Zions Bank

 

Have a great life together and remember all of these life planning skills!  

 

***Almost no one is foolish enough to imagine that he automatically deserves great success in any field of activity; yet almost everyone believes that he automatically deserves success in marriage. - Sydney J. Harris

 

 

     The Communication Connection by Matt Townsend   

Keep the lines of communication open and effective.

Communication is the key to keeping the flame alive from puppy love through the golden years. No matter what problems your relationship has, effective communication can bridge the gaps and pick up the pieces.

 

Matt Townsend, relationship expert and founder of Townsend Relationship Center, says communication creates connections that can bring about positive change in relationships. Matt shares a few tips on how to keep those lines open and effective.

 

Learn to understand the seven basic needs of every relationship:

 

In order for a relationship to be healthy it must meet the seven basic needs: 

 

Safety

Trust

Appreciation

Respect

Validation

Encouragement

Dedication

 

Notice that these needs spell the word STARVED. When these needs are not met, the relationship becomes STARVED and malnourished. By learning to recognize the seven basic needs, you can then learn to feed and strengthen your relationship.

-Look through the “smoke” and get to the “fire”. 

   Couples tend to fight about superficial “smoke” and avoid the deeper “fire”.They say their spouse spent too much money when the real issue is financial safety. Smoke chokes; cut through it and focus on the root issues which are always the STARVED stuff.

-Assume you don’t fully understand everything

    Being married for many years doesn’t mean you fully understand your spouse’s perspective. Always ask questions and make

   sure you understand the answer.

-Focus on the positive

    One negative remark can erase the benefit of five compliments. To get ahead, say 20 positive things for every negative

    comment you express.

-Remember that the receiver has the power to interpret.

    No matter what is said, the listener creates meaning. As the listener, you are the receiver of the message and you have the

    power to interpret the intent of what is being said. You decide if a comment is malicious or not. When faced with a decision

   about how to interpret a statement from your spouse, think first about what you want out of the relationship. Treat your spouse

    like the person you want them to be. How you communicate today will determine the results of your relationship tomorrow.

-Keep your head in the game

    Sometimes, it’s easy to become negative and reactive. If the other person is difficult to talk to, remember this; two heads are

    better than one, but one head is better than none. Even if your spouse isn’t listening, you can make the conversations work by

    staying positive and engaged in what you want most from the relationship.

-Make a tradition of talking every day

    Set aside 15 to 20 minutes a day for loving communication. Don’t use the time to talk about kids, carpools or work – instead,

    talk about hopes, goals, dreams and why you love each other.

 

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